What people think before they have children


I do not have children (I only mention this to readers who don’t know), but I think I have a good idea what it means to have children.

1. You experience joy and fulfilment and happiness that you will never, ever be able to express to someone who does not have children of his or her own.

2. You also experience anxiety and sadness and disappointment that you will never be able to express to people who don’t have children of their own.

3. You think differently about yourself, your value, your role in society, and what you will leave behind of your existence.

I do wonder how many people think about the joy and fulfilment and happiness, and still decide not to have children. How many people think of the anxiety, the sadness, and the disappointment they face, and make a conscious decision to have children after all?