Three broad possibilities for what you can do with your life

MONDAY, 12 MARCH 2012

I’ve been thinking for quite some time that everything I have written so far is not the whole story. Certain conclusions must still be drawn. I believe I have to bring everything to a conclusion to provide an answer to the question: Now what?

One idea that might be worked in is the following: I believe there are three broad possibilities for what you can do with your life.

1. You live for yourself, for your own benefit and happiness, and for your own well-being. You owe no one anything. You do not live for anyone or anything else. This is a valid possibility, no matter what it is called, or in what regard it is held by many people.

2. You withdraw. You spend as much time as possible on your own, in order to sort things out for yourself. Others call this “seeking the truth” or “searching for God” or “to be close to God”. I prefer to keep it simple: You sort things out for yourself.

3. You live for someone else, or for something you believe in. You choose to temporarily suspend your own happiness and welfare, and the fulfillment of your own dreams and ambitions or to permanently sacrifice these things in order to assist another person or other people in their struggle, or to labor for the growth of an institution or to promote a cause you believe in.

In truth, many of us do a bit of all three. We believe it is wrong to live only for yourself, so we always give Number Three strong consideration. Most people also like to be part of something bigger than themselves, and you do not need a master’s degree in psychology to know if you do something for other people, other people tend to like you. And many people value to be liked by at least one other person. But, sometimes we also dream of Number Two – when everything becomes “too much”. And sometimes, even when someone sacrifices the best part of each day for children or for friends and family, they will sometimes do something just for themselves – even if someone else may have to carry a heavier load for a short time as a result.

The above possibilities are like primary colors – and nobody is perfectly green or entirely red, or 100 percent blue.

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